Keep it Zipped



                                    

Beloved, I implore you as aliens and strangers and exiles [in this world] to abstain from the sensual urges (the evil desires, the passions of  the flesh, your lower nature) that wage war against the soul. 1 Peter 2:11

Ismael usually comes before Isaac – so don't fall for the first thing that comes through the door.  It's a shame the Ismaels (wrong for us) usually come along before the Isaacs (right for us). Set some standards ladies, DON'T fall for the first 'Joe Doe' that comes along just because you’re lonely or want a way out of the house.

We DESERVE to have GOOD relationships where people treat us RIGHT. And, it takes a lot to be secure in ourselves and be trusting if we've been hurt a lot.

Don't ignore the warning signs the Holy Spirit is trying to show you. If you see signs from the person you’re dating that make you uneasy TAKE A STEP BACK AND PRAY NOW before you get too hooked.

Make sure you got that discernment working, instead of just fuzzy feelings. If he's pressuring you into having sex to prove you love him, he's not respecting and honoring you. You DO NOT have to have sex with somebody to prove you love them, walk away from those who try to force you in to it.

If he won't make time for you now and put you first now, he sure isn't when he knows for sure hes 'got' you. If he isn't treating you right and telling you the truth now, what makes you think he will when he knows for sure hes 'got' you.

If he's not treating you with respect, why are you with him in the first place ---  move on. Ladies, steer clear of those who are controlling, jealous, possessive and/or emotionally & physically abusive.

Know that going to church and talking about God all day doesn't mean he's the right one or that He's really saved and living for the Lord.

No trust = no relationship. 

Not being vulnerable with each other is a definite relationship killer. When a guy's willing to put aside their own feelings and expectations and the way they ‘appear’ some of the time might be a good indicator of who or who wouldn't be worthy of us.  A healthy relationship is give and take, which means the men should attempt to minister to our emotions and us to theirs to make it work.  It's in sharing that we form closeness. Men see closeness as weakness. So it's not always that they can't be emotional, they don't want to so we can’t see their vulnerabilities.

Are you sure you really wanna settle for that??? You're smarter and worth so much more than that. You're a LOT stronger than you think you are. R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself. Stop being with and/or going back to the one who brings you more pain than happiness, it’s not worth it to continue to invest your life into someone unworthy of your love. Quit lettin' people talk you into stuff that you KNOW in your heart is wrong. Make wise choices today, not pressured ones.

Surround yourself with those who encourage you and help you to feel good about yourself ... you want to be lifted up, not brought down.

A friend recently asked me if you pray for God to change someone for the better that she wanted to be with why didn’t He? God always answers our prayers, just not always in the time or way we want. Each person still has their own free will, so I think our prayers are 'in the waiting' for a person to want & ask for help. We have to want to change. God works through our prayers to try to reach the person but they can still choose to say yes or no. So we keep pray and believe for the Holy Spirit to woo them to Jesus. But we DON'T have to stick around while God is doing His work, it can bring harm and heartache.

Don't hold on to what God has told you to let go of, it'll hold you back ... God wants to do a NEW thing.

GOD'S choice is always the right choice and ONLY HE can see the end from the beginning. Whether He has a partner in the waiting for you or whether He has set you aside for Himself and chosen for you to remain celibate and live a life just devoted to Him … trust Him to have the plan that’s best for you.

A woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. 1 Corinthians 7:34,35

I'm so IMPRESSED by and PROUD of today's young people that have choosen celibacy till marriage or just to remain devoted to the Lord's work till Jesus comes back.

Remember ---  a guy'll say just about anything to get in your pants, zippers up ladies.

Father, I pray that You help us to keep our mind and thoughts stayed on You. Guard our hearts. Give us discernment to know who to let into our circle of closeness and help us to be able to abstain from fulfulling sexual desires unless we are married. Give us grace, lead us not into temptation, and give us discernment about who we are supposed to be in relationship with and who we're not. Keep those away from us that aren't good for us. In Jesus' name, amen.

Keep it Zipped



Beloved, I implore you as aliens and strangers and exiles [in this world] to abstain from the sensual urges (the evil desires, the passions of  the flesh, your lower nature) that wage war against the soul. 1 Peter 2:11

Ismael usually comes before Isaac – so don't fall for the first thing that comes through the door.  It's a shame the Ismaels (wrong for us) usually come along before the Isaacs (right for us). Set some standards ladies, DON'T fall for the first 'Joe Doe' that comes along just because you’re lonely or want a way out of the house.

We DESERVE to have GOOD relationships where people treat us RIGHT. And, it takes a lot to be secure in ourselves and be trusting if we've been hurt a lot.

Don't ignore the warning signs the Holy Spirit is trying to show you. If you see signs from the person you’re dating that make you uneasy TAKE A STEP BACK AND PRAY NOW before you get too hooked.

Make sure you got that discernment working, instead of just fuzzy feelings. If he's pressuring you into having sex to prove you love him, he's not respecting and honoring you. You DO NOT have to have sex with somebody to prove you love them, walk away from those who try to force you in to it.

If he won't make time for you now and put you first now, he sure isn't when he knows for sure hes 'got' you. If he isn't treating you right and telling you the truth now, what makes you think he will when he knows for sure hes 'got' you.

If he's not treating you with respect, why are you with him in the first place ---  move on. Ladies, steer clear of those who are controlling, jealous, possessive and/or emotionally & physically abusive.

Know that going to church and talking about God all day doesn't mean he's the right one or that He's really saved and living for the Lord.

No trust = no relationship. 

Not being vulnerable with each other is a definite relationship killer. When a guy's willing to put aside their own feelings and expectations and the way they ‘appear’ some of the time might be a good indicator of who or who wouldn't be worthy of us.  A healthy relationship is give and take, which means the men should attempt to minister to our emotions and us to theirs to make it work.  It's in sharing that we form closeness. Men see closeness as weakness. So it's not always that they can't be emotional, they don't want to so we can’t see their vulnerabilities.

Are you sure you really wanna settle for that??? You're smarter and worth so much more than that. You're a LOT stronger than you think you are. R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself. Stop being with and/or going back to the one who brings you more pain than happiness, it’s not worth it to continue to invest your life into someone unworthy of your love. Quit lettin' people talk you into stuff that you KNOW in your heart is wrong. Make wise choices today, not pressured ones.

Surround yourself with those who encourage you and help you to feel good about yourself ... you want to be lifted up, not brought down.

A friend recently asked me if you pray for God to change someone for the better that she wanted to be with why didn’t He? God always answers our prayers, just not always in the time or way we want. Each person still has their own free will, so I think our prayers are 'in the waiting' for a person to want & ask for help. We have to want to change. God works through our prayers to try to reach the person but they can still choose to say yes or no. So we keep pray and believe for the Holy Spirit to woo them to Jesus. But we DON'T have to stick around while God is doing His work, it can bring harm and heartache.

Don't hold on to what God has told you to let go of, it'll hold you back ... God wants to do a NEW thing.

GOD'S choice is always the right choice and ONLY HE can see the end from the beginning. Whether He has a partner in the waiting for you or whether He has set you aside for Himself and chosen for you to remain celibate and live a life just devoted to Him … trust Him to have the plan that’s best for you.

A woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. 1 Corinthians 7:34,35

I'm so IMPRESSED by and PROUD of today's young people that have choosen celibacy till marriage or just to remain devoted to the Lord's work till Jesus comes back.

Remember ---  a guy'll say just about anything to get in your pants, zippers up ladies.

Father, I pray that You help us to keep our mind and thoughts stayed on You. Guard our hearts. Give us discernment to know who to let into our circle of closeness and help us to be able to abstain from fulfulling sexual desires unless we are married. Give us grace, lead us not into temptation, and give us discernment about who we are supposed to be in relationship with and who we're not. Keep those away from us that aren't good for us. In Jesus' name, amen.